Dr. Tan Bee Hooi ... her friends write ...
It is now 5:00pm Wednesday in Paris (26.3.08)
Dr. Tan Bee Hooi was diagnosed brain dead on the later part of Tuesday morning. Doctors in the ICU enquired if she had considered to be an organ donor otherwise the next step was to withdraw support. We explained that it was likely that the family would agree but needed their presence to declare their willingness to donate Bee Hooi's organs.
This morning her father, sister and the father of her two children arrived at Paris. They had taken the flight from KLIA on Tuesday night. They were brought to the hospital immediately and allowed special visitation rights. Here we were informed that Bee Hooi had already pledged to be a organ donor while in Malaysia. Hence it was the family's desire that those wishes of Bee Hooi should be fulfilled even in France.
It was good to have the family to here in Paris to see Bee Hooi and bid her farewell. Grieving is always painful and very personal.
They were also able to meet Prof. Jacques Moret who took much time explaining what was done to Bee Hooi and the subsequent complications that arose as a result of the embolization.
Next they were taken to the Malaysian Embassy in France and were received by our Ambassador. Our ambassador conveyed his condolences and offered help to the family in whatever way possible to expediate the return of Bee Hooi's remains.
The organ harvesting will probably start late this evening and will not finish until early tomorrow morning.
I have no more tears for Bee Hooi, only respect and admiration for this wonderful person and a true Malaysian.
Lim Wee Leong
Dr. Tan Bee Hooi had this nice habit of getting quotes from the net, printing it out and
attaching it to the board of our OT call room. This quote below, attributed to Mother Theresa, was posted by her last year.
It remains there till today:
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may just never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway.
Thank you Bee Hooi, for showing us lesser folk how to live life.
Mother Theresa would be proud.
After reading all the feedback on what a wonderful person Bee Hooi was, I want to add something: I was fortunate to have the opportunity to have some interaction with Bee Hooi and always found her, as others have, to be a remarkable and admirable person. As President of the MSA, and in response to suggestions from Dato Jahizah and others, I am proposing that we acknowledge Bee Hooi's untimely death and her contribution to Anaesthesia at our forthcoming AGM/ASM in Langkawi. In addition, I am also asking Wee Leong to write a short article about Bee Hooi and her "true Malaysian" spirit to be published in the Berita MMA (she was also an MMA member). Last but not least, I would like to post the following poem for all of us to read, because I feel that it fits Bee Hooi's personality and outlook on life and because Bee Hooi lives on in everyone she has touched in her life. Mary The poem is entitled "Do Not Stand at my Grave and Weep" and is attributed to Mary Elizabeth Frye (1904-2004). There are a few (slightly different) versions but I like this best.
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there.
I do not die.
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep